When I found myself in the “depths of despair”, I would read/meditate on so many verses that seemingly applied to my situation, yet…..nothing. I struggled with practically applying the truths I knew in my head to my everyday life. I was miserable.
There were several breakthrough moments--passages that were so familiar, yet they jumped off the page at me. The first was Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
Let’s be honest. Most of us have heard this verse preached in the context of listing all the things that we should/should not watch, listen to, visit, associate with, etc. I agree. There are plenty of things in life that are not true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, or worthy of praise. However, this is what jumped off the page at me: Whatever is true…..think about these things.
Is it true? There are a couple of huge things that happened for me here. I realized first of all, that the source of my despair and misery was not external. It was my wrong thinking. I was not thinking truth. Wow. More than 6,000 sermons in my life, and I was having trouble with truth? No, it’s not that I was believing lies or questioning the truth of the Bible. Practically, in everyday life, I was not thinking truth. I would be all stressed out over lists of things that I thought I needed to do – everyday housework, remodeling rooms, couponing, meal planning, complete clean-out and reorganization of my house, read several books, do in-depth Bible studies…I could go on and on. Sure, those things don’t sound too outrageous….if you took them one or two at a time. The problem was that I would decide that I would need to do several or most of those things in one night or weekend. Yes, I was crazy! So here’s what I would do. I would have conversations with myself (sometimes out loud):
Do you have to do all of the 12 humongous projects on your list today? No
What is necessary for your family to survive? Cooking, some laundry, having a sane wife and mom
Several books? Really? Ok…one at a time, not necessarily every day
In-depth Bible study? Personal time with God – Yes. Hours of study? No
(I have more to say about this. I’ll save it for another post.)
Then there are all the “what ifs” of life. What if…..I get sick, lose a job, mess up, let others down, lose a loved one? Ok. Am I thinking about some thing or circumstance that hasn’t happened? Then I am not thinking truth. God’s grace IS sufficient for what IS happening. “He giveth more grace when the burdens grow greater.” NOT “He giveth more grace the more I think about all the bad things that might happen some day.”
Amazingly….I started to change. Why? My thinking was changing.
Remember, it’s a gradual process. Start thinking truth. It will change your life!
Well said!
ReplyDeleteWhile I "know" (from all that Bible Knowledge) that I shouldn't compare myself to others, it's still easy to fall into the more-subtle trap of thinking that "I should be doing more of what SHE's doing", when that's not necessarily what God has called ME to be doing.
I love the place where Jesus said "she hath done what she could" ... It reminds me that I don't have to do EVERYthing ...
~ Susie
Thanks, Susie! "She hath done what she could" - I just might need to have that done in vinyl lettering and apply it to a wall in every room in my house. :) A very encouraging reminder!
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